A Time Of Thanksgiving

I have said before in words to this effect

“In this game of life, when I lose, I am grateful for the realization that I have a lot more to learn, and when I win I am grateful to realize that I have a lot more to learn.”

The staff at Lupin garners my gratitude every day, for showing up and taking on whatever task they have at hand, for being amenable with each other and our guests.

And they are grateful for so many things personally and professionally.

From the staff at Lupin

“I am personally grateful for this community that welcomed me with open arms and has provided me with a wonderful partner and some of the best friends one could ask for.”
“I am grateful for my cat, beef stew, and my loving partner in life.”
“I am personally grateful for the opportunity to wake up every day next to the one I love.”
“I am grateful for a safe place in nature to wake up to every day.”
“I am grateful for the time I’ve spent here at Lupin.”
“I am so grateful that I am open to learning new things every day.”
“I’m personally grateful for the opportunity to be around non-judgmental people, and to let myself feel comfortable in my own skin.”
“I am grateful for my health. I am grateful for an environment where I am free to be whom I want to be.”

And gratitude for their working experience:

“I am grateful for a workplace that values me and encourages me to be whom I want to be.”
“I am grateful for the support I receive from staff.”
“I am grateful for the flexibility I have in my schedule and that I can rely on my team to kick a……”
“I am grateful that I can meet and am able to care for people every day.”
“I am grateful that I have a good working team. I am grateful for the people I work with. ”
“I am grateful for the opportunity for growth and experience.”
“I am grateful to be able to work together as a team to improve the place that we live in daily.”
“I am grateful for the willingness to come together as a team to get things done.”
“I am grateful for my coworkers and the beautiful scenery I get to experience every day.”

We at Lupin are grateful to serve ourselves, each other, and you. 
May your Thanksgiving be a time of true gratitude.

Rochelle
-Hospitality Director Lupin Lodge

Nurturing Ourselves

I do believe that in order to truly nurture others we must first nurture ourselves. How can we give sustenance to another when we are hungry?

So the question is how do we nurture ourselves; our bodies, minds, and spirit?

Lupin Lodge Naturally

There is physical nurturing, and we want to have as much of that as possible, and being at Lupin is a big part of that. One hundred and ten acres of mostly woods, a pool, a hot tub, a sauna, and the wonderful gifts of Music, Hiking, Dancing and classes in nutrition and we try to take that into our everyday life, while trying to negate our family baggage with it—and sometimes it stays with us, and sometimes it fades until we return. But we always want more, we want to feel full, and fulfilled. We search out inspiring words but it takes a while to act on those words and once again we may walk away hungry.

What does it take to feel that sense of nourishment, the all rightness of our being?

In my own quest to feel truly nourished, I have needed to find something that does not need anything outside myself to feel replete in fact everything outside myself becomes heightened by nourishing my inner being or spirit. And though I have said this many times because it works so well, I am saying it again, we feel nurtured when we are seen, heard, and appreciated and the best way to feel that way when we are by ourselves is to see ourselves through accepting eyes, to hear ourselves with loving ears and to appreciate ourselves for desiring to be the best we can be at any time and loving ourselves when we lose for we have a lot to learn and loving ourselves when we win for we have a lot to learn.

We are a work in progress, we fall many times before we walk but we learn to walk because we are bi-peds and we will seek nourishment because we are human beings.

Find what nourishes your spirit and practice using it in your life.

Rochelle
Hospitality Director Lupin Lodge

 

Finding Laughter Behind Our Seriousness

On Monday, Labor Day 9/5/2022, my husband of over 46 years, the father of my children and professional theater partner for over 47 years, was about to fulfill the #1 thing on his bucket list: visiting one or more foreign countries before he was too old to make the trip. This trip was his odyssey!

With a mutual friend, a chance to make professional connections, and mileage plus free air travel, the date was set.

Now, a footnote: my husband spends a lot of his waking hours lost in thought solving problems, thinking of ways to create more efficiency in his life and composing humorous one liners that continually make me laugh, and as a result constantly forgets where he puts things. I can attest to the fact that every day of our time together I have heard this phrase in one form or another, at least if not more times, “Rochelle, do you know where… I just put it down. I could have sworn it was right here!”

We went over his itinerary, when and where he would meet our friend, what he would take with him, the most important items being his passport, credit card, etc—check, check, check. We made copies of everything and off we went to the San Francisco International Airport. He confessed to being nervous but excited.

We arrived at 10:30 for his 12:30 flight to London, kissed a long goodbye. “Stay safe, have a wonderful time. I love you.” And though I heard in the back of my mind, maybe you should wait before leaving to go home, I poo pooed the thought and took off from SFO via Highway 101 South, and on Labor Day it was pretty fast sailing.

Someone was calling me, but I couldn’t get to my phone, couldn’t pull over, and finally reached Los Gatos where I could pause our of curiosity to see who was calling. There was a text: “Come back, come back I had the wrong passport”

“That man is so funny,” I said to myself with a chuckle. “Are you serious? Haha!”

Then I listened to the phone calls, he wasn’t leaving, he had taken the wrong passport. He would have to come home and leave the next day (thank you Mileage Plus for more miles). Back I went to the airport laughing all the way. If this had been a Seinfeld episode it couldn’t have been funnier.

A friend said, “Didn’t you want to throttle him? After all, you were in the car for four hours.”

I answered that I was laughing too hard to want to do him in.

We can search for the humor in almost every situation, it’s hidden behind our seriousness!

Rochelle
Hospitality Director at Lupin Lodge

CLEAN, SAFE, AND HEALTHY

We feel safe and healthy when the world we visit is clean.

No detritus on the roads and lawns, clean bathrooms, pool area, trails easy to access with no heavy twigs, branches or overgrown greenery to impede our way and cause injury.

Plants, art work, places to sit and hang out by the pool make us feel comfortable and therefore safe.

Therefore, I wish to say how much I appreciate those at Lupin who keep it so clean. It is not only I, but so many old timers, long term members (people who have a history with Lupin) have remarked, it’s so much cleaner, nicer now. They feel safer, happier to be here so they can de-stress (my motto for Lupin, come to Lupin to undress and de-stress.)

I once heard this phrase or words to that effect, “CLEANLINESS IS NEXT TO GODLINESS.” I don’t know how true that is but I do know that cleanliness makes us feel comfortable. There’s a feeling of health and well-being attached to it which makes us feel safe.

And cleanliness is not just in our surroundings but in what we think and say and act. There is dirty language, coarse behavior, anger and fear that can pollute our atmosphere. But if we express kindness, caring (which is not messy), we feel safe, and healthy and healthy living is clean living.


Lupin Rochelle
Hospitality Director Lupin Lodge

BOUNDARIES!

Boundaries:
• What are they?
• Why do we need them?
• How do we deal with people who don’t have them?
 
Boundaries keep us safe. Rules act as boundaries; systems act as boundaries; beliefs act as boundaries, as do customs. These boundaries have an emotional gate that keeps us safe. Then there are physical boundaries, that can and should only be crossed through an invitation. We can feel when someone crosses our boundaries. Usually it it someone who does not have any or very few boundaries and they then cannot feel our boundaries. We feel uncomfortable. We may feel as we have been invaded, we feel dissed, discounted, walked over and we become defensive. We may use anger as a weapon.

As we become more mature, we push our boundaries and become more inclusive, letting more things, situations and people in. We test our limits and we grow.

And as we grow we can learn to respect other peoples boundaries.

In a hospitality situation we may encounter many people who do not have good boundaries or any… and when the anger boils up what do we do besides stuffing it.

If I have learned anything in my golden years it is to first and foremost to forgive myself for having negative feelings and then treat the “offender sternly telling them what I need them to do, setting rules. We do not invade each others physical space unless there is a request that is granted. This is what I need from you, be firm and caring and continue to remind that person as if teaching a child. It works when we set boundaries for those who do not have them.

Lupin Rochelle
Hospitality Director Lupin Lodge

A (sort of) Farewell Letter

Dear folks who actually read this thing,

I will for the most part be stepping back from my role at Lupin. For those of you who might actually miss my face in the office and as Front of the House in the restaurant, I wish you all a fond farewell. I will miss talking to you and providing you libations in my campaign to Liquor up Lupin, as well as seeing your smiling faces at checkin and hearing your stories upon checkout. But fear not—I will remain developing/compiling/editing/ruining the This Weekend at Lupin (TWAL) newsletter.

For those with whom I have been lucky enough to work here, I will miss you too. Though I am leaving in a work capacity only, and will remain here as your friend, I want you all to know that I have been truly blessed to work with all of you, and I have loved being part of your family.

With love (I swear I’m not dying of consumption even though it kind of reads that way),

Sierra R.

Just Like Living in Paradise

By Sierra R.

I live on site here at Lupin, in an old Prowler trailer from the 80s that is still sturdy like a tank, and likely will be long after I’m gone. 

I wake up to the sound of birds every morning—and occasionally the braying of Rosie the Donkey up the hill. My trailer walls are thin, so the bustle of morning always sounds like it’s in the room with me.

On days off, I take a walk down by the creek. The trees are thicker there, and it’s usually darker there too, but it’s quiet, which I like. Sometimes the wild turkeys are down there, being herded not-super-successfully by one bigger turkey. Besides their gobbling and the soft gurgle of the creek, there is very little sound. Only my feet on the ground, and sometimes noises of humanity in the distance.

The trails on the hill are a little much for me at this point—an old hip injury (and sheer laziness) keep me on the flat for the most part. 

Midday I take to the pool now that it’s heated, and after I shower outdoors and air dry if it’s warm enough. I prefer the showers downstairs—they’re more peaceful, and sometimes deer show up nearby and look at me like I’m crazy.

In the evening, I sit on my front porch and watch the sky fade into darkness. The stars come out one at a time, brighter than most places around here without the usual light pollution.

I go to bed to the sound of crickets, rustlings of skunks and raccoons outside, and wind in the trees.

I know I’m usually glib—and hopefully funny—but I wanted to share my experience of living in such a beautiful place with no flippant turns of phrase and with only sincerity. It’s just like living in paradise.

Hiking Tips From a Reluctant Outdoorswoman

By Sierra R.

  1. Wear sunscreen. Wear all the sunscreen. Buy out your local drugstore and apply liberally. Then apply again once you’ve managed to sweat that off, which, if my experience is any indication, will be five minutes after applying the first coat. Repeat into eternity.
  2. If you are not going to wear clothes, have a buddy give you a thorough tick inspection after your hike. Even if you do wear clothes, have someone give you a tick inspection after. The rain has made for some beautiful landscape, but also a rather thirsty insect population. With that in mind, you may want to load up on bug spray for any twilight hikes to ward off mosquitoes.
  3. Wear the right foot gear. You can probably get away with basic tennis shoes on most hikes around here, but make sure they’re comfortable, make sure your shoes and socks are dry, or look forward to the biggest blisters you’ve ever seen gracing your heels.
  4. In general, hike with a buddy. Though we don’t have much in the way of lions and tigers and bears (oh my!), we do have the occasional cougar. They mostly view humans as too big to make for a decent snack, but better safe than stuck in cougar teeth.
  5. Last but not least, pick a hike you think you’ll enjoy. Don’t try to conquer the Appalachian Trail your first time out, lest you become a cautionary tale—or worse, a viral video.

Dealing with Anger – Yours or Someone Else’s

By Lupin Rochelle
Angry Woman

Why do I, We – Get Angry?

Anger is toxic – it pollutes our personal atmosphere

My sense of justice has been betrayed. I have been falsely accused. I get frustrated when things don’t go the way I want them, when people don’t perform the way I want, when I let myself down, don’t live up to my standards or my families or society’s. To name a few triggers. And I imagine others get angry for some of the same reasons.

When alone, I take my anger out on me. Maybe I’ll feel ashamed, guilty, depressed etc. But if someone is around, it is easier to be angry at them, just because they’re there and I believe they feel the same sense of loathing for me that I feel.

Forgiveness is called for the angry. Forgiving ourselves for our humanness, for our fear of being annihilated because we screwed up.

When one stubs their toe, they don’t want to hear, “why weren’t you more careful?” They, we, I, want succor, comfort, healing.

How do we offer that to ourselves, each other?

I have learned to become aware of the signs that anger is about to erupt like the lava from a volcano and engulf the joy in my life; and I look at it, back away, and say in so many words: “Whoops!”

I watch myself about to become embroiled, and I share it with a willing ear: “I just got so annoyed when she, he, said, did that. Boy did that knock me off my perch!” Then—and this is the fun part—I sometimes see myself as an animated figure, steam popping out of my ears, eyes popping out of my sockets, and I have to laugh at my ridiculousness.

When I am aware of what I need in those moments, I can share them with my angry brethren.

I can feel the self-accusation under the anger.

I can feel the need for forgiveness and I will do my best to deliver.

Rochelle
-Hospitality Director Lupin Lodge

The Hazards of Being a Naturist and a VPP
(Very Pale Person)

By Sierra R.

When unclothed in the wild, there are always potential challenges. Rain, chill, scraping vulnerable parts against less-than-sympathetic flora or landscape. When one is a very pale person on top of this, there are additional concerns.

Lupin Life Art Drawing

The top three difficulties of being a very pale person who likes to be very nude are:

  1. The sheer cost of sunscreen – since we are forced to apply sunscreen approximately every 12.7 minutes, we go through a phenomenal amount of it (always SPF 50 or above) to keep our skin and important bits from sizzling like bacon in the sun.
  2. For some reason, it is nearly impossible to get a tan. I cannot count the number of times I have laid out in the futile hope of developing a bronzy glow, only to spend days looking like a tomato that applied too much red lipstick… and still, not long after, returning to the healthy complexion of an anemic ghost.
  3. The reflection of our buttocks in the sun can down passing planes. (Said buttocks can, however, be used in place of a lantern on a dark night.) Our skin tone can be a hazard to our own vision as well—I once foolishly looked at myself without eye protection in the sun and spent hours recovering my sight.

Though there are other challenges to being a naturist, for those of the pale persuasion and those of a less blinding skin tone, I would not trade the freedom of being naked (and the freedom to rob passing strangers of their ability to see) for anything.